So…what is therapy?

Therapy means different things to different people.

To me it means being in the company of a person who is present, who is actually there with you. It means being with someone who doesn’t want to be anywhere else and who is relaxed and easy with whatever is going on – a person who can be with you without needing anything to be in a particular way. Now this also means they are relaxed and fearless enough to be themselves, they trust themselves and act spontaneously in whatever way seems fit; they behave in ways that create opportunities and possibilities for discovering something, for experiencing something not experienced before even though they are not trying to make anything happen. This person is curious and open and flexible. Being with this kind of person is not for everyone, for you cannot really hold onto your usual ways of looking at things and your usual ways of behaving with this person for very long. This person practises accepting things the way they are and finds joy in the present being with things the way they are. The way things are is always changing at this level of material existence and this person accepts that and lets go into this living flow of experience, and knows how to yield and be there with what is happening no matter what that is.

So, for me being a therapist means a life dedicated to practising being with life the way it is, relaxing into that, coming back to the present as soon as I become aware that I have strayed from being where I am. As a therapist I invite the possibility of you arriving in the present too. This takes time and everyone has their own divine pace. There is never anything to do because life is in flow all the time, it wants to move and like water in a river, it wants to return to the sea – that is its nature, to flow down to the lowest point until it reaches the ocean. This is what is happening in all of us and all we need to do is attend patiently to what is happening inside us. All we have to do is to develop a keen sense of where we are now, in this moment, and whatever is there will unfold by itself and show us what needs to be seen, it will release what needs to be felt and we develop the capacity to stay, to stay with what is there until it has passed through and all the energy has been released. We learn to ride the wave instead of falling headlong into it. So if this sounds attractive to you then you might like to explore working with me.